http://www.therecordherald.com/features/x105398603/Deborah-Higgins-of-Thurmont-pursues-her-sons-dream-for-a-fallen-soldiers-memorial

“James spoke to me about the memorial and what he wanted to see "

So this "mother" spoke to her soon-to-be-corpse son about what he wanted on a war memorial she was scheming... and then he gets to be on it (but not see it of course)

No wonder she continues to be disturbed.