I've decided to start a thread on "Advice for autistics" after reading about Obama's
appointment of a high functioning jewish autistic on some disability council.

The phrase, "Sorry about that, and in the interest of getting along I will try to
fix X which you've objected to" is useful. X should be detailed, so the conversant can correct your interpretation, or be pleased with your understanding, or both.
It doesn't work after you've run someone's dog over, but it helps with say front lawn disputes.